Let’s begin with level flying …

Borrowing from the words of Jonathon Livingston Seagull, as he started with his new gulls, he said, “Let’s begin with level flying.”

As we begin this new semester, I’m going to be taking a lot of the two classes – Stress Management, the Art of Emotional Wellness – into the digital, technological, and WWW world. It’s going to be fun and interesting to watch it develop in this direction, but I’m excited for the challenge it presents.

As we pursue this path, let’s first ask ourselves, “How happy am I?” “What things do I find stressful?” “Is my stress taking its toll on how well I’m doing with my health, my performance, my relationships, and anywhere else?”

Ask yourself also, what would it be like to be living your life without the stress?

Wouldn’t that be nice?

Well that’s where we’re going in the next three months … so hang on, feel free to contribute, and enjoy the ride?

The only beginning of all our stress

All stress begins with a thought. It isn’t what’s happening “out there” that initiates the stress response. It’s how we interpret what’s happening “out there” that causes us to become stressed or not. We call this a perception of a threat. If we think this situation will lead to some kind of pain (emotional, mental, spiritual, or physical), we turn on the stress response automatically to prepare for the potential pain. The potential pain is what we call a “threat.” Prevention of stress, then, is best done by focusing on our thoughts, by changing how we think about those things we think are threatening.

This first Blog looks directly at our thoughts and some things we can ask ourselves to help us prevent stress:

1. Is the threat real? What is the perceived threat? What is the likelihood of this perceived threat actually happening? What is the chance of its occurrence? (Almost always the answer to this is that the threat is rarely going to hurt us.)
2. Can I handle this? (Our past experience tells us that we can always handle things)
3. Is the perceived threat one which I can do something about? Is it in my circle of concern or my circle of influence? (As one of my wise students once told me, “If you have control over it, there’s no need to worry about it. If you don’t have any control over it, you also don’t need to worry about it. There is nothing else. So why worry?)
4. Can I think about this differently? There are hundreds of ways to interpret the situation differently. That is the wonderful thing about free will or our innate freedom to choose.

   Sometimes we forget these things and the stress response turns on. When that does, we need definite ways of turning it off. This involves relaxation exercises and coping skills.

All of these things will be treated as we explore this exciting field of study that relates directly to you and me.